Writing to Your Child’s Teacher via Busy Kids = Happy Mom

Books & AppleBusy Kids = Happy Mom: Writing to Your Child’s Teacher

School is around the corner, and I can’t wait! My older two, the twins, are starting Kindergarten in the fall.   I always loved school.  I loved learning something new, and finding how the lessons build on top of another.  Yes, I was a nerd, and my CPA license after college just gave me the credentials to call myself a nerd.

But, my boys are different than I. They are so unique from one another, and as boys, their experience is sure to be different than mine.  We are so happy with the school we have chosen for them. The school celebrates the individual, boy or girl, and will definitely help Archie and Sean gain a sense of individuality in their learning, their interests.

To help them gain that sense of individuality, I love this post via Busy Kids = Happy Mom. She recommends writing (I imagine an email would be fine too – paper can be too easy to lose) a summary of your child for the teacher. The teacher doesn’t have the years of experience with the child and rather than spend the first couple of months gaining some very basic knowledge – it will really help giving your teacher a “Heads Up”, so both the student and the teacher can hit the ground running.

This is music to my nerdy, planning ahead soul and to my mothers soul who cherishes the ability to have other people see her twin boys as unique individuals.

Your child’s gifts and talents.  This allows for immediate connection.  After defining your child by his gifts (important), then list your child’s struggles, but don’t stop there.  Explain specific ways you have dealt with these struggles or quirks in the past. “My son struggles with focus, but in the past teachers have allowed him to do x, y and z to improve attention.”  You want to be a collaborator who solves problems, together.
(adapted from Kirk Martin at Celebrate Calm)
Questions to get you started for children K – 2nd grade:
1.  Your child’s past school experience.
2.  How does your child approach school or learning?  (apprehension or excitement)
3.  How would you describe your child’s learning style?  (hands-on, visual, etc)
4.  What kind of environment do you think your child learns best in?  (structure, more independent, calm)
5.  Child’s strengths and weaknesses academically and socially.
6.  Hobbies your child enjoys.
7.  Goals for your child this year at school.
8.  Your home situation (pets, divorce, death, new baby)
9.   Any additional concerns.

7 thoughts on “Writing to Your Child’s Teacher via Busy Kids = Happy Mom

    • Agreed, parents really do know all the things that make their kids tick and how best to help them. But, I hope to have an open mind if they have suggestions too.

      • Of course. The most important thing is communication. If more parents and teachers could work together to find good solutions for the classroom and individual children, schools would be able to do so much more for their students

  1. Excellent idea and what a great list. I hope my son’s teacher embraces this in the coming school year. Unfortunately, I’ve had experiences with teachers who aren’t so interested in collaborating on solutions together, as they are on just reporting home with, “fix his behavior and make it not happen again.” Frustrating to say the least.

    • Oh man! I can see how that would be frustrating. Hubs and I agonized over where to send the kiddos for school. Pay big $$ for private or hoof it to public. We were scared, as naturally active, rambunctious and prone to roughhousing as the twins were, a public school setting would label them as either Troublesome, ADHD or some other thing, when they are just being BOYS. Ive seen it happen to friends’ kids. So, we searched and searched and found a great school near us that actually tailors curriculum for the way the child learns. A little pricey for the private school, but I think anything is worth giving them the best start at learning. Its something that we never stop doing, no matter what profession and what stage of life we are in. I hope this year goes better for everyone! Good luck!

      • I can relate. If you happen to get a teacher who really doesn’t understand boys or has zero tolerance for them, it’s easy for typical “boy” behavior and learning styles to get labeled as “problematic.” My son is at a charter school which is a step up from our local publics, but not quite as individualized as the privates with hefty tuitions might be. It’s not perfect, but it’s good enough for right now. I’m just finding it really all comes down to the teacher. The teacher is everything. There can be excellent teachers in public schools and mediocre teachers in private. If you’re lucky enough to find fabulous teachers year to year, you’re golden!

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