Open Letter to the Kindergarten Teacher

I first came up with this idea after reading a post from a blog that I follow. It was inspired, write a letter to your childs teacher. This will help, hopefully, speed up any time the teacher needs to get to know and teach your child better. And, who knows your child better than you? See the original post here. This is an open letter to the Kindergarten teacher of my olders: twins Archie and Sean. They start Kindergarten *gasp* today!!

Dear Mrs V.
I hope you are prepared for the two whirlwinds that are certainly the center of my world. Archie and Sean. I know you have several students in your care this year, all of whom are special, unique and amazing individuals. Do not be fooled however, just because my boys are twins, they are completely unique and have aspirations of being their own independent personality. I hope you can help us with that. But first, let me introduce you to the older of my two little men:

Archie is a brash boy, and when I say boy, I mean BOY. He likes to run, jump and climb on things with the best of them. But, even when he is doing so, he is listening and taking in every word. You will become a central figure for him. Please know that Archie is also a sensitive boy, who will try really hard to hear the words “Im proud of you”. Archie is a boy that takes a while to learn things, he is quiet and you are not always sure that he is paying attention, but he is. He needs repetition, but not the exact same thing over, and over and over again. The only thing he hates more than being bored, is feeling dumb. And if he has to do the same thing, the same way too many times, he gives up and shuts down. Please help us be creative and work with you where we need to in order to make sure he is challenged. He is a smart boy, but learns usually though touching and doing. Please have patience because as soon as he has put his hands on something, usually destroying it, he will usually be able to understand how something worked. Archie will hang back in most social situations until he feels comfortable. He is assessing the situations and deciding how he wants to proceed. He is my chief pusher of buttons and demolitions expert. He and his brother are the best of friends, or the worst of enemies. But, together they usually stand – on top of one another. Because they are boys, they play rough with other boys, tackle and are currently obsessed with super heros. Because who is cooler than a person who doesn’t make mistakes and can leap buildings with a single bound or throw webs/batarangs to catch all the bad guys in the world? Heck, I’m impressed with that paradigm. He is creative and always thinking of things a little differently. He might not make the same linear leaps as others do, but if you give him something relatable as an example, he can quickly process the information you give him. Archie likes to sing, or hum, while he eats. You might find him coloring the sky in his drawing purple, because the sun is about to explode. Unusual, sure, but none the less, he has a reason. Please listen to his reasons. He usually has them, and given enough time, can verbalize them. He has a reason for saying ‘No’ or ‘I wanted to’, but you have to let him put words to it.

Sean is my learn everything and then forget it boy. He needs lots of repetition to keep the ideas in his head until they become second nature. Sean can take situations as they come and changes with minimal notice. When meeting new people, he is usually the first to say ‘Hello’. He can roll with changes, but he does have bouts of shyness around pretty girls. Im hoping this clears up around the age of 35. Like his brother, he really enjoys imagining scenarios and making up stories to entertain. His drawings are pretty neat as he makes up two-headed dinosaurs, who are plant-eaters, because the other kind are too scary. He is able to play tackle with the boys, but is sensitive enough when dealing with people to have empathy for their feelings as well. Sean is creative, but is more likely to catch on to new concepts quicker and make intuitive leaps from past lessons, without having been told. But, he will need help keeping all that in his little, but oversized brain. He can also play rough with Archie and his biggest fads right now are: superheroes and dinosaurs. Anything that is big, powerful and can chomp you to bits at the drop of a hat has his vote. Sean is my chief lever puller and builder/creator of all things, train tracks, buildings etc. He might be busy doodling on a paper, or hanging off his chair, but he is paying attention. Sean is also very articulate, in that he CAN say what he needs to. But as a boy, he tends to revert to hand signals, grunts and various other noises to indicate what he wants/needs. Please have patience as we have been trying to train coherent sentences and not hand motions. But, I feel it is an uphill battle. Just remind him that you are not a mind reader and need words to understand. At this point, he will probably sigh and tell you very clearly what is going on.

A little history about the family, there is a history of a learning disability: delayed processing and I suspect possible undiagnosed ADD. But, I don’t want either boy, Archie or Sean, who have permanent ants-in-the-pants type of activity level to be labeled as ADD without significant testing. I limit their exposure to sweets and try to encourage healthy eating habits. I also try to maximize their exposure to the outdoors and exercise. They love to run and be active. And, if I don’t provide an ‘authorized’ outlet for the energy, things go badly. Above all, if they feel bored, PLEASE tell them to ask for something new to do. PLEASE keep them challenged and excited about learning. Too much undirected play/ free time usually ends up with SOMEONE getting bonked in the head, usually the other brother, for getting in the way of a major road construction or other important project. Don’t misunderstand, they are not allowed to play rough with girls, or hit, or generally terrorize other people. But, since they were little, they have had each other, and mostly ONLY each other, for company. Since they are the same size, what might seem like a quick hug or bump, might be more than that for smaller children. We have tried to teach them to gentler to others, sometimes the lessons stick, sometimes they do not.

Thank you for learning about my children and walking with us on the start of a great and wonderful journey. Hopefully, this is just one of many successful steps to keep them in love with learning about the world around them.

A Mom

10 thoughts on “Open Letter to the Kindergarten Teacher

  1. I did this when my children were young, too. It was especially helpful when we were going through a divorce, it helped the teachers balance any unusual behavior with what might be going on in the children’s lives. When we were about to move from Georgia to Washington and enroll the children in a new school, I wrote to the principal about the children. She forwarded the letters to the respective future teachers, who both then enrolled their class room students to write to my children. They sent all the letters, and pictures in a box filled with candy. It was a great way to show my children that they were already loved, before they arrived in Washington. When we got to the school, on the first day, there was a countdown calendar showing how many days until my children would be there! (And as a side note, the teachers from the school we were departing, heard about the letters the other school sent, and started a campaign from their students. We got letters and pictures to tell our children goodbye.) Love all around : )

    • I love that! What a great way to show support and love to the kids during a time of transition! I bet it made a hard time SO much easier for them.

  2. This is such a great idea and a beautifully written letter. You really know your boys inside and out. I’m sure any teacher would appreciate receiving this background information about their students in advance. I’d be curious to know what kind of feedback you received from your sons’ teachers. And are they in class together? I know some parents split up their twins.

    • Thank you so much! The teachers have thanked me and said they enjoyed reading the letter. The twins are in the same class, because they have only 1 Kindergarden class at their school. But we make sure to keep them at different tables and groups when they do different activities inside the class. So far they LOVE school, except for French class. I’m going to have to help them with that. I foresee us buying a Rosetta stone or something.

    • I don’t know about sophisticated, right now their favorite part of school is gym and recess. Archie is having a hard time with it because the teacher changed his name for class. As a twin he is heavily identified by his name. So, I need to actually go in and talk to her about what name she is using, and if she can call him Archie with an accent or something vs changing his name

      I just hope the experience makes learning a 2nd language easier for him later on. Goodness knows with the interwebs expanding, the world is shrinking and its even more critical we can communicate with our neighbors!

      What are your boys fav parts of school?

      • Oh wow, I can see why changing his name as a twin might be a little disconcerting. Names make us individuals and I’m sure as a twin, that holds true even more so! Only my oldest is in school right now (second grade) and similar to your boys, I think his favorite subject is recess (and his after school program which allows him to be physically active and play)! But, he’s a good reader and writer and enjoys using his imagination to tell stories. 🙂

      • That’s awesome! I can’t wait till the boys start reading on their own. Sounds like he’s well on his way.

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