My twins just turned 6. And my how the time flies. As we become more involved in school and other students’ lives we have been invited to their other parties. At the end of these parties, I see parents handing out goodie bags. When did this start happening and why? (photo credit: http://www.deadspin.com)
I see these bags and cringe knowing it is full of candy, bad and sometimes inappropriate toys that I will step on, break and are choking hazards for the baby in the family. There can be cool things, like the parachute men a friend recently gave my kids, but these things are NOT the norm. We are still throwing those off the stairs. But usually these goodie bags stink.
Have kids gotten so used to being given something, even when its not their birthday, they feel ‘left-out’? When did the act of going to someone else’s party mean you get to take something home too? When did a thank you note stop being enough to thank a good friend for the gift of their time and whatever wrapped bauble that might end up in your toy bin?
At our birthday parties, we have given party hats shaped like firefighter hats for a firefighter themed party, or given out the dozen or so balloons that marked our table at the bowling alley for this years party because they didn’t all need to come home. But we have never given out goodie bags. I guess I just don’t see the point. I hate to be the bearer of bad news, but we all have little dissapointments in our life. If your kids biggest gripe is that he didn’t get a goodie bag, then I think he/she is doing all right. Give her another hug and ask if they had fun with their friends.
At 6 this might fly, at 15 – not so much. But, by then I think (hope) they have outgrown goodie bags and just be grateful for pizza, soda and mind-numbing activities like the irrational teens they are. For a funny post on this (contains strong-ish language) see: http://deadspin.com/5877906/parents-dont-put-any-goddamn-candy-in-the-goodie-bag